Cynthia Hill

Yesterday I posted about Sandra Bullock’s new baby, and how happy I am for her. It seemed yesterday that the entire world (or those who care about such things) was happy for her.

Today, I find out that there are those who have decided that they “dislike her character very much” or “have lost a lot of respect for her”. Sheesh! That’s quite a change! “What did she DO?” you might wonder.

She chose to circumcise her infant son.

I make no secret of the fact that I’m anti-circumcision. However, some of the comments I read on a blog (ironically titled “Peaceful Parenting”) shocked me.

“James” said:

A complete failure of the responsibility to care for and protect the baby she adopted. Poor defenseless child. Scarred for life. But at least she enjoyed the party  

“James L” said:

Sandra Bullock said of getting her adopted son’s penis ritually cut was, “the greatest moment I have ever had in my life”!? Sorry Sandra, whatever sympathies we might have had for your personal sorrows made public, or whatever happiness we might have shared from your triumphs are gone. You have proven yourself, with this action and this quote, proven yourself to be ignorant. Willfully ignorant. Very stupid and sad. 

“Katie” said:

Ugh, and I was just happy for her over the past few hours after learning she had adopted a son. She sounds just like Christina Aguilera with the whole super-fun penis party. Gag. 

Okay, seriously, what’s done is done. She made her decision with the best information that she had. We don’t know her reasoning, and while I doubt I’d agree with it anyway, I have NOT lost respect for her, nor do I find her disgusting. I am disappointed that she chose to publicize her decision so much, as we all know that when a celebrity does something and tells the world there are those who will follow for no other reason than that “Sandra did it.”

However, ONE parenting decision, whether you or I or anyone else agrees with it or not, does NOT make a person a bad mother! She didn’t decide to switch his formula with Jack Daniels. She didn’t decide to ride with him in her lap instead of a car seat while going down the freeway (hello Britney!)

I have a lot of friends who circumcised their sons. Do I wish they hadn’t? Truthfully, yes. Does it change my feelings about them as people, or my level of respect for them? Absolutely not.

Give it a rest, people. After everything the woman has been through in the past few months, the last thing she needs is all of you piling on top of her for a decision that she can’t do anything about now. Focus your energy on things that you CAN change.